PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME - IS A DSM MENTAL DIAGNOSIS ON THE WAY?

We have blogged in the past about parental alienation and "Parental Alienation Syndrome."  There was an excellent article in US News and World Report on line posted on October 29, 2009.  To read the article, click here.  To view some of our prior posts on this topic, click here and here.

The article discusses a movement afoot to add "parental alienation" to the next addition of the DSM (ie. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) published by the American Psychiatric Association.  The new edition is scheduled to be published in 2012. 

While there appears to be little debate on whether parental alienation in both subtle and not so subtle forms goes on, there is a debate as to whether it represents a mental illness.  On top of that, there is concern that certain opposition to visiting with a parent could either be age appropriate (eg. a teenager being oppositional) or otherwise justified.  The people of this view are concerned that making parental alienation a mental illness could be invoked by an abusive parent to gain visitation with a child that has good reason to oppose contact.

No matter where you stand on the debate as to whether parental alienation is a mental illness, it is clear that alienating behavior in whatever form, big or small, cannot be good for the children that are exposed to it.

FIGHTS OVER CUSTODY - THE SAD TRUTH

In my opinion, perhaps the saddest and often most heart wrenching part of a family law matter is a fight over children.  Custody disputes are so personal and important to each side that if the right people aren't involved they can get downright nasty and last many years.  This is especially so when children are young at the time the divorce begins. 

Like it or not, once children are involved parties are connected to one another for life.  While not always possible, children are best served when parents can put their differences aside and the children's needs and best interests first.  Typically that means being the bigger person, taking a few deep breaths and staying focused on the goal at hand- the children.  While this may be easier said than done, parties who cannot agree or who engage in bitter custody battles can spend years in the court system not to mention thousands of dollars on experts, court appointed or otherwise who become involved to help the parties resolve their issues.

There are several experts who can become involved in a litigated custody matter.  Forensic psychologists, psychiatrists and/or social workers can either be court appointed or selected independently by a party.  Their function can be to provide a medically based opinion of each party and the child(ren) and the interrelationships in the family.  Through a series of tests and interviews, the psychologist can offer a medically based, informed opinion as to the best interests of the child(ren).  They can also function in a therapeutic setting to repair, re-establish or reunite a parent's relationship with a child.

Parent coordinators can either be psychologists, attorneys or even licensed social workers.   Their function is to serve as a neutral third party to effectuate communication between parents as to child centered issues.  Often, parent coordinators refer to themselves as referees as they can offer insight and a perspective from an outside vantage point.  Parent coordinators do not have authority to make the final call and either parent can still raise an issue to the court for determination.

An attorney appointed to represent the interests of the child(ren) acts as an independent legal advocate for the best interests of the child(ren) and takes an active part in a hearing.

A guardian ad litem acts as an independent factfinder, investigator and evaluator as to the best interests of the child(ren).

The same person cannot serve as the guardian ad litem for the child(ren) and a court appointed attorney.

Once some or even all of these professionals are involved and a resolution is not reached, the issue of what's best for the child(ren) is placed before the court for determination.  A plenary hearing must be conducted "when the submissions of experts show there is a genuine and substantial factual dispute regarding the welfare of the children, and the trial judge determines that a plenary hearing is necessary to resolve the factual dispute." "In child custody cases, a 'plenary hearing is virtually a necessity...unless there are overwhelming admitted facts (e.g. child abuse).  Such a hearing must be held...where serious and long standing effects on the life and well-being of the child may result.'" 

For an in depth discussion of guardian ad litems, court appointed attorneys for the child(ren) and the court's role in making the decisions, see Bell v. Bell, A-0308-06T3, Decided August 10, 2009.

Through the judicial system parents are given opportunities and tools to resolve these issues between them.  However, the best decisions are the ones that parties can agree to amongst themselves as they are the most likely to be followed.

POSSIBLE PARENTAL ALIENATION GIVEN SHORT SHRIFT BY APPELLATE DIVISION

We have previously blogged on the issue of whether a separate tort cause of action exists for parental alienation.  At present there are at least  two cases in the Appellate Division addressing this issue.  In at least one of the cases, there is the direction that parental alienation should be dealt with in the family court, but not as a tort. 

In an unreported Appellate Division decision dated June 5, 2009 entitled Cole v. Cole one of the issues raised in an application was parental alienation on the mother's part.  Specifically, the father alleged hat the mother seeks to alienate the children from him. He made a number of
general allegations that defendant was not abiding by the parenting schedule fixed by court order, including contentions that on multiple occasions defendant refused to allow court ordered parenting time or to permit the children to speak to him on the phone.  In her responsive certification, the mother denied  that she interferes with the father's.   She stated that the children were "well, adjusted, healthy and normal, both physically and emotionally," although she did indicate problems with the children when they returned from defendant's home.

The trial court did not change custody or even give a hearing.  The judge did find that certain additional parenting time should be considered for the father but denied his motion without prejudice.  The father appealed arguing among other things that the decision condoned the mother's bad acts. The Appellate Division affirmed.  In doing so, there was a very interesting quote, as follows:

After a careful review of the record, we concur with the trial judge that defendant has not made a sufficient showing that changed circumstances have occurred and that "a genuine and substantial issue" of custody is present. Certainly, the hostility between these parents does not benefit the children. In a divorce setting, oftentimes the greatest test of a parent's love for the children is to foster, in the face of adversity, the children's love for and relationship with the other parent and to work with the other parent in a civil manner to benefit the children. It is a circumstance that forces a parent to dig deep into himself or herself and put that love for the children ahead of the bitterness felt toward the former spouse. However, defendant's proposal to change custody will not accomplish that nor remedy any problem here.

If, indeed, parenting time is being denied, enforcement remedies should be sought. If defendant seeks additional parenting time, such as an additional weekday dinner as suggested by the trial judge, that relief can be requested from the trial court if the parties cannot agree. The record does not indicate that the circumstances here are so deleterious to the children that "a genuine and substantial issue" of custody
is present.

 

The full record is obviously not included in the opinion.  Of note, however, is that there does not seem to be a finding that the mother was not interfering with the father's parenting time.  If that is the case, it sure seems that her bad acts have been condoned by the Court.

Perhaps a motion seeking to change custody was premature and a motion for enforcement, make up parenting time, etc. may have been more appropriate at first.  Maybe not.  Had that motion have been made, it would not be shocking if the result was that a court did not grant a plenary hearing, and further, makes no real findings at all - but rather just admonishes the parent not to violate the order in the future. 

Would it be shocking if that empowered the custodial parent to continue acting in an aberrant way, since nothing happened at the first motion.  In that event, it is conceivable that the non-custodial parent either becomes resigned to this treatment or another motion is filed. 

Maybe then the case is dubbed a "high conflict" case and a parent coordinator is appointed.  Does the conduct stop - or is it just now become the province of the parent coordinator?    If the Court really wont enforce an Order because perhaps there are conflicting Certifications, does the aggrieved party ever get any real relief?  Does the situation with the children worsen?  The Court above said that  a change of custody would not remedy the situation.  Why not?  If interference with custody and/or alienation were really dealt with and sanctions were really imposed, one would thing that that would be a deterrent to future bad conduct.  If loss of custody was a remedy, that too may be a deterrent. 

The argument made in at least one of the pending Appellate Division cases was that the situation with the children was too far gone and the only real remedy was a tort action where money damages were possible.  If the Family Part does not effectively deal with these issues, what is so wrong with that? 

The aspiration goals of the above quote are laudable.  But are they realistic?  I would expect that the quote would be lost on the very people to whom it was directed in this case - and to those who it would be directed in similar cases.

READ MARK ASHTON'S INTERESTING POST ENTITLED "A TEST OF CHARACTER AND A SAVINGS IN COST"

Mark Ashton, a partner in our Exton, Pennsylvania office, and the editor of the firm's Pennsylvania Family Law blog, wrote an interesting post on that blog entitled "A Test of Character And A Savings In Cost." To read the post, click here.

Unfortunately, the scenario Mark wrote about is all too common in divorce cases.  Parents often put their children in the middle of financial issues.  How many times to do we hear, as I did as the child of divorce, to "ask your father for it."  Or "I have no money", "I can't afford it, ask your father" or worse yet "your father doesn't give me enough money for this."  I am sure that there are other variations or permutations.  What about when a parent expects to exercise their parenting time (visitation) on the regular days, but there are parties, outings, events, etc. planned for that time.  Does that parent become the bad guy when the child can't go?  Can the other parent do something to make it "alright" for the child to miss an event or do they inflame things by saying "it's your father's fault you cannot go." 

Sadly, these things are typical in divorces.  The people who do it (divorce) right, try to limit this.  The ones that don't risk doing damage to their kids and running up their legal fees.  At the worst end of the spectrum, the conduct can result in parental alienation.

APPELLATE COURT HANDS DOWN INTERESTING DECISION RELATED TO CUSTODY TRIALS

On appeal from a decision rendered by the now-retired Judge Camp of Essex county, the Appellate Division's affirmation of Judge Camp's decision in the matter of Robert Goldman v. Gail Mautner is one that details and describes the unfortunate but all too common realities that occur during contested custody trials in the family court., though this case appears to be almost as bad as it gets.

This appeal stemmed out of defendant's displeasure with Judge Camp's determination that the parties should share joint legal and physical custody of the children despite defendant's allegations that plaintiff was an unfit parent and unfounded allegations of abused by plaintiff on the children.

After a 29 day trial limited solely to the issues of custody and parenting time, Judge Camp rendered a detailed 33 page opinion whereby he determined that it was in the best interest of the children to have shared legal and physical custody with their parents.

During the trial, both parties initially sought sole custody of the two children of the marriage.  Plaintiff later changed his position to joint custody while defendant remained steadfast for sole custody.  This litigation commenced in 2003 after the parties had been married for approximately 10 years.  Defendant claimed  that plaintiff was abusive to her as well as the children.  DYFS conducted an investigation and hired an outside expert to evaluate the parties and children.  After such an evaluation it was determined that there was no abuse substantiated by the plaintiff against the children and rather that the children had been programmed to allege same without fully understanding or appreciating the effects of their allegations.  Supervised parenting time was recommended by the DYFS expert only  so that plaintiff would be protected against further baseless allegations.  Testimony was offered during the trial by the supervisors relating to incidents where the children made unfounded allegations of abuse during times when the supervisors were present and noted that these allegations were fictitious.

Defendant's appeal raised several issues relating to alleged bias of Judge Camp against her, error by the trial court in not permitting the live testimony of lay witnesses on defendant's behalf, error by the trial court for not interviewing the children, and alleged error by the trial court for not requiring the experts to update their reports prior to trial. 

In it's unreported (non-precedential) opinion, the Appellate Division found defendant's claims of bias by Judge Camp unfounded and unsupported by the record below.  They also found sound Judge Camp's decision and rationale for prohibiting the testimony of defendant's lay witnesses as these witnesses were only to provide testimony based on information provided by defendant, to which she had already provided her own live testimony.  Furthermore, Judge Camp allowed defendant to submit proffers as to these witnesses testimonies and allowed the proffers into the record without providing plaintiff the benefit of cross examination. 

Lastly, the Court noted that there is no requirement in the Court Rules that a trial judge interview children in a family matter or experts retained in a family must update their reports prior to trial.  As to the interview of the children, both parties' experts testified that at this point interviewing the children would be counterproductive as they had been through many years of extensive therapy related to this litigation.  The Court also noted that since the parties had privately retained their own experts in this matter, it was not incumbent upon the court to require those experts to submit updated reports.  If defendant felt that new pertinent information was available for her own expert to review, she could have had her expert update her report, which she did not do.

An interesting portion of the Appellate Division's decision noting Judge Camp's decision were the portions that related to the credibility of the parties upon their testimony and demeanor during the trial.  Whenever the scrutiny of the court is upon a litigant, judges are carefully observing demeanor and judging credibility.  In the midst of highly contentious trials, such as this one appeared to be, clients may forget the all too simple tenants of civility, however it is in their own best interest not to.

EDITOR'S NOTE:  This case evidences some of the absolute worst that can arise in family court cases.  There was a finding by the trial judge that the wife actively tried to alienate the children from their father.  There have been several recent posts on this blog regarding parental alienation.

In addition, it is rare that one sees that a parent's parenting time is supervised to protect that parent from wrongful allegations.  In this case, it appears that the alienation was so bad that allegations arose even when supervisors were present.  In this case, it appears as though the father's parenting time with the children was compromised for years.  The damage that this could seemingly cause to the relationship seems unthinkable.  Moreover, the legal and other costs associated with had to be staggering. 

It would appear that the cause of action for intentional infliction of emotional distress raised in the prior blog posts and recently approved by Judge Galipoli in Hudson County, appears as appropriate in this case as in any other.  It seems hard to imagine that the father here can ever get back what he has lost.  Should there not be some kind of monetary punishment here - an award of legal fees just does not seem to be sufficient.    Perhaps that will be an issue in the financial aspect of the case which was apparently not resolved.                                                                     ERIC S. SOLOTOFF

A NJ COURT DETERMINES THAT A CAUSE OF ACTION FOR PARENTAL ALIENATION EXISTS

In a recent trial court opinion issued by the Superior Court in Hudson County, Judge Gallipoli recognized that parents in NJ may have a right to collect damages for intentional infliction of emotional distress when their relationships with their children are poisoned by former spouses or even grandparents who partake in alienating behaviors. 

In a November 21, 2008 trial court decision, the court recognized the right of one parent to sue another, as well as grandparents, for what is known as the intentional infliction of emotional distress.  In this particular case, the father sued the mother and maternal grandparents because they had alleged that the father sexually abused the children.  The suit alleges that the ex-wife and her parents began alienating the children from the father during the pre-divorce separation in 2006. The defendants allegedly told the children, court-appointed psychiatrists and law enforcement officials that the father was a sex addict and had molested the children in the past, the suit says.  It also says the children are afraid to sleep at their father's home because they have been told they are in danger of being sexually abused.


The wife and her parents denied the allegations and argued in motions to dismiss the suit for failure to state a claim that the Heart Balm Act had eliminated the cause of action of alienation of affection. They argued that the term "alienating the children" is what the complaint calls the alleged wrong.  Judge Gallipoli found that this claim was not a disguised claim for alienation of affections, which was banned in the state in 1935 by what is referred to as the Heart Balm Act.

This is the first time that a NJ Court has recognized the ability to bring such a claim.  A prior suit  was filed in the Morris County Superior Court but dismissed by Judge Rand on the grounds that the suit was nothing more than a disguised claim for alienation of affections.  Noting Judge Rand's opinion in his own, Judge Gallipoli respectfully disagreed with Judge Rand's interpretation of the decisional law in this state and found that a claim existed for these types of behaviors.  Since they are both trial court judges, Judge Rand's opinion was not binding upon Judge Gallipoli.  Judge Gallipoli noted that the father would have to file an application in the family part seeking relief, however his claims against the maternal grandparents would proceed in the law division.

The real question remains as to how the Appellate Division and perhaps even the state Supreme Court will view claims such as these. 

EDITOR'S NOTE:  It seems contrary to notions of judicial economy, mandatory joiner and the entire controversy doctrine that the claims against the mother and her parents would be handled in separate venues. In addition, while there is precedent to bring tort actions related to a divorce in the family part, a party may have a right to a jury on these issues and the cases are often severed and sent back to the law division anyway. 

The bigger question is how a court should handle these claims in a post-judgment situation where there is not an ongoing matter and ultimate trial date pending.  While court's can order plenary hearings post-judgment, it seems that when these issues arise post judgment, the better place for them may be in the law division. 

Also, the theory here that makes the claim viable is not that there has been an alienation of affections, but that a person's intentional act has harmed another, where the only possible remedy for same may be money.   ERIC S. SOLOTOFF