I suspect that anyone that read my last blog might think that I am against shared custody or that I believe it to be impossible. That is not the case. Rather, my point in that post was to address possibly bad faith requests for joint custody by those people who have historically neither spent a lot of time with the children nor did much of the actual parenting.
But shared parenting time is not an impossibility. Supposedly, it requires parents who have the ability to communicate and cooperate. That said, I have seen parents who cannot have a civil word with each other effectively co-parent.
Shared parenting, by New Jersey standards, is anything between 28% (104 overnights) and 50% of the overnights with the children. Curiously, these definitions actually stem from the child support guidelines. When the newest iteration of the Guidelines came into being in 1997 or 1998, they had two different worksheets – a sole parenting worksheet and a shared parenting worksheet (104 overnights and over). While non-custodial parents now got child support reductions with each overnight, the credit was greater using a shared parenting worksheet. As a result of the new guidelines, negotiations over additional overnights began, in many cases for obvious reasons.