In 2021, I wrote on this blog about a case where a court delayed reunification therapy because a 12 year old child didn’t want to do it. To this day
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Another Parental Alienation Fiasco in the Courts
Parental alienation cases are hard. They are hard for the alienated parent. They are hard on the Judge, who may not have the tools or the time to effectively deal…
Continue Reading Another Parental Alienation Fiasco in the CourtsTop 10 Posts Read in 2022 – JD Supra style
Yesterday, I posted the Top 10 Posts in 2022 on our NJ Family Law Blog as measured by page views. Aside from publishing the posts directly on our blog, the…
Continue Reading Top 10 Posts Read in 2022 – JD Supra styleTop 10 Divorce Trends in 2022
As 2022 comes to a close (who can believe it?), I find myself reflecting on the year past, and also planning for the year ahead. 2022 has certainly has its…
Continue Reading Top 10 Divorce Trends in 2022COURT DELAYS REUNIFICATION THERAPY DEFERRING TO THE WISHES OF A 12 YEAR OLD
Sadly, serious fractures in a parent-child relationship come up frequently in our practice. Sometimes, it is because of a parent’s self-destructive conduct (e.g. drug or alcohol addiction, abuse, untreated mental…
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Fights Over Custody – The Sad Truth
In my opinion, perhaps the saddest and often most heart wrenching part of a family law matter is a fight over children. Custody disputes are so personal and important to…
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High Conflict Divorces: Parent Coordinators And Other Professionals Enlisted To Help With Parenting Time Issues
Over the years, judges began to make numerous appointments to attempt to, if not rid the courts, at least create a buffer for parenting and visitation issues that arose daily/weekly/monthly in high conflict divorce and post-divorce matters. Sometimes the professional was called a parent coordinator, other times it was a therapeutic monitor, a mediator, a parenting coach, etc. The role was generally the same, that is, to present these issues to a neutral third party that had either a legal or mental health background, or both, to assist the parties work out the differences and in many instances, make recommendations if they could not.
These appointments were being done even though there was no specific authority for the appointments in the Court Rules or statutes. In April of 2007, the Supreme Court started a parent coordinator pilot program in four vicinages, Morris/Sussex, Bergen, Middlesex and Union. To see the Notice from the Supreme Court and the standard form of parent coordinator Order, click here.
The Court saw the program to serve the following purpose: "A Parenting Coordinator is a qualified neutral person appointed by the court, or agreed to by the parties, to facilitate the resolution of day to day parenting issues that frequently arise within the context of family life when parents are separated. The court may appoint a Parenting Coordinator at any time during a case involving minor children after a parenting plan has been established when the parties cannot resolve these issues on their own. The Parenting Coordinator’s goal is to aid parties in monitoring the existing parenting plan, reducing misunderstandings, clarifying priorities, exploring possibilities for compromise and developing methods of communication that promote collaboration in parenting. The Parenting Coordinator’s role is to facilitate decision making between the parties or make such recommendations, as may be appropriate, when the parties are unable to do so. One primary goal of the Parenting Coordinator is to empower parents to develop and utilize effective parenting skills so that they can resume the parenting and decision-making role without the need for outside intervention. The Parenting Coordinator should provide guidance and direction to the parties with the primary focus on the best interests of the child by reducing conflict and fostering sound decisions that aid positive child development."Continue Reading High Conflict Divorces: Parent Coordinators And Other Professionals Enlisted To Help With Parenting Time Issues