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Previously both Jennifer Millner Weisberg and I blogged on a highly publicized New Jersey family law case, Fawzy v. Fawzy.  To read my prior post on this case, click here.  To read Jennifer's post, click here. 

For those of you who may not be familiar with Fawzy, this matter involves parties who opted to participate in binding arbitration as to all outstanding issues in their matter, including a determination of custody and parenting time, as opposed to proceeding with a trial.

Alternate dispute resolution is another method by which parties who have outstanding legal issues between them can select a mutually agreeable individual to serve as a mediator and decide the issues, rather than sit through and bare the expense of an expensive and often lengthy trial.  Alternate dispute resolution methods, such as arbitration, are available in nearly every area of the law and not limited to family law matters. People prefer arbitration because it may resolve issues more expeditiously than otherwise having a trial.  In addition, the arbitration process can be more informal than deciding issues in a courtroom before a judge.  Our courts encourage arbitration as a substitute for litigation.  Arbitration conducted by an individual of the parties' own choosing is often less antagonistic than litigation and may minimize the harmful effects of divorce litigation on a family.

In Faherty v. Faherty, 477 A.2d. 1257 (1984), the New Jersey courts approved the arbitration of alimony and child support issues.  So when the Fawzy's decided to arbitrate the issues of custody and parenting time- what was the problem?

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We have previously blogged on the issue of whether a separate tort cause of action exists for parental alienation.  At present there are at least  two cases in the Appellate Division addressing this issue.  In at least one of the cases, there is the direction that parental alienation should be dealt with in the family court, but not as a tort. 

In an unreported Appellate Division decision dated June 5, 2009 entitled Cole v. Cole one of the issues raised in an application was parental alienation on the mother's part.  Specifically, the father alleged hat the mother seeks to alienate the children from him. He made a number of
general allegations that defendant was not abiding by the parenting schedule fixed by court order, including contentions that on multiple occasions defendant refused to allow court ordered parenting time or to permit the children to speak to him on the phone.  In her responsive certification, the mother denied  that she interferes with the father's.   She stated that the children were "well, adjusted, healthy and normal, both physically and emotionally," although she did indicate problems with the children when they returned from defendant's home.

The trial court did not change custody or even give a hearing.  The judge did find that certain additional parenting time should be considered for the father but denied his motion without prejudice.  The father appealed arguing among other things that the decision condoned the mother's bad acts. The Appellate Division affirmed.  In doing so, there was a very interesting quote, as follows:

After a careful review of the record, we concur with the trial judge that defendant has not made a sufficient showing that changed circumstances have occurred and that "a genuine and substantial issue" of custody is present. Certainly, the hostility between these parents does not benefit the children. In a divorce setting, oftentimes the greatest test of a parent's love for the children is to foster, in the face of adversity, the children's love for and relationship with the other parent and to work with the other parent in a civil manner to benefit the children. It is a circumstance that forces a parent to dig deep into himself or herself and put that love for the children ahead of the bitterness felt toward the former spouse. However, defendant's proposal to change custody will not accomplish that nor remedy any problem here.

If, indeed, parenting time is being denied, enforcement remedies should be sought. If defendant seeks additional parenting time, such as an additional weekday dinner as suggested by the trial judge, that relief can be requested from the trial court if the parties cannot agree. The record does not indicate that the circumstances here are so deleterious to the children that "a genuine and substantial issue" of custody
is present.

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Last week, I authored and released a Family Law Alert regarding the new Guidelines for Child Custody Evaluations in Family Law Proceedings issued by the American Psychological Association Issues. To view a PDF version of the alert, click here.  The full text of the alert is as follows:

The American Psychological Association (APA) notes that parties resolve child custody issues amongst themselves in 90 percent of the cases. When parties cannot resolve custody and visitation issues (called “parenting time” in New Jersey) amongst themselves or after a court’s early intervention program, the next step is to have a child custody evaluation performed by a forensic psychologist. In some cases, the court will appoint this expert. In others, the parties may agree upon a joint expert. In bitterly contested cases, parties often have their own custody expert - and there may also be a court appointed expert.

In 1994, the APA developed Guidelines for Child Custody Evaluations in Divorce Proceedings. The APA issued updated guidelines effective February 21, 2009, which are effective for the next 10 years. These Guidelines consist of 14 individual guidelines that are meant to be aspirational in nature, and not mandatory. Rather, the Guidelines are intended to facilitate the continued systematic development of the profession and a high level of practice by psychologists. The Guidelines were not intended to be exhaustive nor replace the judgment of the psychologist. That said, they provide fodder for cross-examination during a custody trial if the expert is not aware of the Guidelines and/or fails to follow them. A rationale and application is provided for each of the following 14 Guidelines:

1.  The purpose of the evaluation is to assist in determining the psychological best interests of the child. Since the ultimate standard in deciding a custody case is “the best interests of the children,” the Guidelines reinforce that the psychologist should be focusing on the psychological best interests of the children, which is what the Court expects. The Guidelines encourage the expert to weigh and incorporate family dynamics and interactions; cultural and environmental variables; relevant challenges and aptitudes for all examined parties; and the child’s educational, physical and psychological needs.

Litigants going through the process of a custody evaluation should provide the expert with all relevant information regarding these factors. In reviewing the expert report, make sure that the expert has addressed them all. If it is your own expert, you may want to inquire why these issues are not included. If it is a neutral or adverse expert, it is a potential issue to be raised on cross examination. With the neutral expert, you may not want to wait until trial. If any of these factors are important enough to impact the final recommendation, you may want to ask the expert to reconsider his or her recommendation in light of this information.
 

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Mark Ashton, a partner in our Exton, Pennsylvania office, and the editor of the firm's Pennsylvania Family Law blog, wrote an interesting post on that blog entitled "A Test of Character And A Savings In Cost." To read the post, click here.

Unfortunately, the scenario Mark wrote about is all too common in divorce cases.  Parents often put their children in the middle of financial issues.  How many times to do we hear, as I did as the child of divorce, to "ask your father for it."  Or "I have no money", "I can't afford it, ask your father" or worse yet "your father doesn't give me enough money for this."  I am sure that there are other variations or permutations.  What about when a parent expects to exercise their parenting time (visitation) on the regular days, but there are parties, outings, events, etc. planned for that time.  Does that parent become the bad guy when the child can't go?  Can the other parent do something to make it "alright" for the child to miss an event or do they inflame things by saying "it's your father's fault you cannot go." 

Sadly, these things are typical in divorces.  The people who do it (divorce) right, try to limit this.  The ones that don't risk doing damage to their kids and running up their legal fees.  At the worst end of the spectrum, the conduct can result in parental alienation.

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On Tuesday, February 3, the New Jersey Supreme Court heard arguments on the Family Law case of Fawzy v. Fawzy. This case was originally reported by Sandra Fava of our Roseland office this past summer when the Appellate Division determined that a court did not have the ability to permit parents to submit to binding arbitration on the issue of custody. To read Sandra's original post, click here.  To read the full text of the Appellate Division's decision in the case, click here. 

The Supreme Court granted certification. Both sides offered excellent arguments for and against the issues.

In this case, Mr. and Mrs. Fawzy agreed, in the courthouse, and in front of a judge, to submit the issue of custody to an arbitrator.  As Sandra mentioned, the parties were scheduled for a trial date in early 2007.  When they appeared in Court on this date, they agreed to submit all issues in contest to an arbitrator for binding, final, non-appealable arbitration pursuant to this state's statute governing arbitration (N.J.S.A. 2A:23B1 to 32).  They, along with their respective attorneys appeared before the judge that same day and placed this agreement on the record.  The judge clearly advised them that the arbitrator's decision would be final and could not be changed.  The parties agreed and went forward. They went to a well respected arbitrator who specializes in family law. Subsequently, Mr. Fawzy, who did not like the way things were going, moved to vacate the arbitrator’s decision, contending that issues such as the custody of children could not be subject to arbitration. The Appellate Division agreed. 

But what of the future? Arbitration can proceed with the same formality as a court trial or in some cases, with a more relaxed structure. However, the process is something that is agreed to by the parties in advance order to insure fairness. In a nutshell, the strong public policy in New Jersey is such that the Courts favor settlements between parties through alternative dispute resolution, of which arbitration is one example. In arbitration, the parties agree to have an arbitrator, rather than a judge, decide issues. There are many instances other than the matrimonial context in which arbitration is utilized and has been for many years in New Jersey. There are laws concerning the use of arbitration. However, it is only in the relatively recent past that arbitration has been commonly used to resolve matrimonial issues. This is obviously due to the sensitive nature of family proceedings. At the current time, there is no statute which specifically governs arbitration in family cases.  Utilizing arbitration for custody seems to be the next logical step in alternative dispute resolution for matrimonial cases.

The central issue is whether a judge, who stand in a parens patriae, or protective role, can in effect delegate his or duty to make a determination as to custody to an arbitrator. There have been previous cases in which the courts have been prohibited from allowing a parenting coordinator from making decisions as to custody and parenting time. Is it right for  litigants to be able to agree to allow a third party other than a judge the authority to make a custody determination on these issues? There are certainly arguments for and against.

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On appeal from a decision rendered by the now-retired Judge Camp of Essex county, the Appellate Division's affirmation of Judge Camp's decision in the matter of Robert Goldman v. Gail Mautner is one that details and describes the unfortunate but all too common realities that occur during contested custody trials in the family court., though this case appears to be almost as bad as it gets.

This appeal stemmed out of defendant's displeasure with Judge Camp's determination that the parties should share joint legal and physical custody of the children despite defendant's allegations that plaintiff was an unfit parent and unfounded allegations of abused by plaintiff on the children.

After a 29 day trial limited solely to the issues of custody and parenting time, Judge Camp rendered a detailed 33 page opinion whereby he determined that it was in the best interest of the children to have shared legal and physical custody with their parents.

During the trial, both parties initially sought sole custody of the two children of the marriage.  Plaintiff later changed his position to joint custody while defendant remained steadfast for sole custody.  This litigation commenced in 2003 after the parties had been married for approximately 10 years.  Defendant claimed  that plaintiff was abusive to her as well as the children.  DYFS conducted an investigation and hired an outside expert to evaluate the parties and children.  After such an evaluation it was determined that there was no abuse substantiated by the plaintiff against the children and rather that the children had been programmed to allege same without fully understanding or appreciating the effects of their allegations.  Supervised parenting time was recommended by the DYFS expert only  so that plaintiff would be protected against further baseless allegations.  Testimony was offered during the trial by the supervisors relating to incidents where the children made unfounded allegations of abuse during times when the supervisors were present and noted that these allegations were fictitious.

Defendant's appeal raised several issues relating to alleged bias of Judge Camp against her, error by the trial court in not permitting the live testimony of lay witnesses on defendant's behalf, error by the trial court for not interviewing the children, and alleged error by the trial court for not requiring the experts to update their reports prior to trial. 

In it's unreported (non-precedential) opinion, the Appellate Division found defendant's claims of bias by Judge Camp unfounded and unsupported by the record below.  They also found sound Judge Camp's decision and rationale for prohibiting the testimony of defendant's lay witnesses as these witnesses were only to provide testimony based on information provided by defendant, to which she had already provided her own live testimony.  Furthermore, Judge Camp allowed defendant to submit proffers as to these witnesses testimonies and allowed the proffers into the record without providing plaintiff the benefit of cross examination. 

Lastly, the Court noted that there is no requirement in the Court Rules that a trial judge interview children in a family matter or experts retained in a family must update their reports prior to trial.  As to the interview of the children, both parties' experts testified that at this point interviewing the children would be counterproductive as they had been through many years of extensive therapy related to this litigation.  The Court also noted that since the parties had privately retained their own experts in this matter, it was not incumbent upon the court to require those experts to submit updated reports.  If defendant felt that new pertinent information was available for her own expert to review, she could have had her expert update her report, which she did not do.

An interesting portion of the Appellate Division's decision noting Judge Camp's decision were the portions that related to the credibility of the parties upon their testimony and demeanor during the trial.  Whenever the scrutiny of the court is upon a litigant, judges are carefully observing demeanor and judging credibility.  In the midst of highly contentious trials, such as this one appeared to be, clients may forget the all too simple tenants of civility, however it is in their own best interest not to.

EDITOR'S NOTE:  This case evidences some of the absolute worst that can arise in family court cases.  There was a finding by the trial judge that the wife actively tried to alienate the children from their father.  There have been several recent posts on this blog regarding parental alienation.

In addition, it is rare that one sees that a parent's parenting time is supervised to protect that parent from wrongful allegations.  In this case, it appears that the alienation was so bad that allegations arose even when supervisors were present.  In this case, it appears as though the father's parenting time with the children was compromised for years.  The damage that this could seemingly cause to the relationship seems unthinkable.  Moreover, the legal and other costs associated with had to be staggering. 

It would appear that the cause of action for intentional infliction of emotional distress raised in the prior blog posts and recently approved by Judge Galipoli in Hudson County, appears as appropriate in this case as in any other.  It seems hard to imagine that the father here can ever get back what he has lost.  Should there not be some kind of monetary punishment here - an award of legal fees just does not seem to be sufficient.    Perhaps that will be an issue in the financial aspect of the case which was apparently not resolved.                                                                     ERIC S. SOLOTOFF

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Jane Lessner,  a partner in our Philadelphia office and a contributor to our Pennsylvania Family Law Blog, wrote an excellent post entitled "MERRY ????? HAPPY????? HOLIDAY????" To view the full post, click here.

The point of the post, put much better by Jane than me, is that parents should not ruin the holidays for the children because of their hostility and selfishness.  We see it all of the time.  Motions or Orders to Show Cause (emergent applications) to resolve holidays.  The more parents can cooperate put conflict aside for their children, the better adjusted the children will be. 

Jennifer Weisberg Milner from our Princeton office wrote on this topic last year.  To read her Alert, click here.

Aside from being civil at the holidays, parents should also be civil at events where they will both be present (i.e. graduations, dance recitals, sporting events, bar mitzvahs, communions, confirmations, etc.)  If not, every future happy event could be filled with trepidation if not dread, wondering what the parents will do to ruin the child's happy day. 

Hopefully, parents will remember to put the children's best interests first at the holidays and always.

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Over the years, judges began to make numerous appointments to attempt to, if not rid the courts, at least create a buffer for parenting and visitation issues that arose daily/weekly/monthly in high conflict divorce and post-divorce matters.  Sometimes the professional was called a parent coordinator, other times it was a therapeutic monitor, a mediator, a parenting coach, etc.  The role was generally the same, that is, to present these issues to a neutral third party that had either a legal or mental health background, or both, to assist the parties work out the differences and in many instances, make recommendations if they could not. 

These appointments were being done even though there was no specific authority for the appointments in the Court Rules or statutes.  In April of 2007, the Supreme Court started a parent coordinator pilot program in four vicinages, Morris/Sussex, Bergen, Middlesex and Union. To see the Notice from the Supreme Court and the standard form of parent coordinator Order, click here.

The Court saw the program to serve the following purpose:  "A Parenting Coordinator is a qualified neutral person appointed by the court, or agreed to by the parties, to facilitate the resolution of day to day parenting issues that frequently arise within the context of family life when parents are separated. The court may appoint a Parenting Coordinator at any time during a case involving minor children after a parenting plan has been established when the parties cannot resolve these issues on their own.  The Parenting Coordinator’s goal is to aid parties in monitoring the existing parenting plan, reducing misunderstandings, clarifying priorities, exploring possibilities for compromise and developing methods of communication that promote collaboration in parenting. The Parenting Coordinator’s role is to facilitate decision making between the parties or make such recommendations, as may be appropriate, when the parties are unable to do so. One primary goal of the Parenting Coordinator is to empower parents to develop and utilize effective parenting skills so that they can resume the parenting and decision-making role without the need for outside intervention. The Parenting Coordinator should provide guidance and direction to the parties with the primary focus on the best interests of the child by reducing conflict and fostering sound decisions that aid positive child development."

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In some cases, either parties will agree or a court will Order the payment for a nanny.  In fact, this is typically in the nature of work related child care which is something that parents are typically required to share the costs of in accordance to their incomes under the Child Support Guidelines. 

A question that is more interesting is for how long must we pay for a nanny.  In hign income cases, perhaps this is less of an issue because it becomes more of a lifestyle issue than work related child care.  In fact, in many cases like that, there is a nanny or nannies even when one parent does not work outside of the home.  That is why I say it is more of a lifestyle issue.

What happens when there is a nanny in a garden variety case where the resources are more limited?   In an unreported Appellate Division case released on November 7, 2008 entitled Herega v. Figueroa that issue was addressed to a certain extent. To see the full text of the case, click here.

In this case, it appears as though the father had custody of the children.  At time of the divorce, both children were not in school full time.  As such, recgonizing a need for assistance, the wife agreed to pay for half of the nanny.

However, the current litigation stems from her motion to cease contributing to the nanny among other things.  There were two major rationales given.  First, she alleged that the father and the nanny were now a romantic couple - indeed sharing the same bedroom.  Second, since the kids were now 6 and 9 and in school full time, she asserted that there was no need for a full time nanny.  In fact, their school offered low cost before and after care.  The husband denied that there was a relationship and otherwise opposed the motion.  The trial court denied the motion.

The Appellate Division reversed and remanded the matter for a plenary hearing (trial) on the issue of whether there was a relationship between the nanny and the husband.  Further, the hearing was to address whether the nanny was still needed given the maturation of the children and the availablity of after care at school.

While not reported, this case remains interesting for the above reasons.  In addition, it is another example of the Appellate Division reminding trial judges that plenary hearings are required when there are important factual issues in dispute.

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Jane Lessner, a partner in our Philadelphia office, wrote an excellent post entitled "What to Tell Your Custody Lawyer" on the firm's Pennsylvania Family Law  blog.

To read the full text of Jane's Blog entry, click here.

EDITOR'S NOTE:  Previously I blogged on "How to Prepare for a Custody Evaluation."  To view that post, click here.  We also have many other posts and custody and visitation/parenting time issue which can be viewed by clicking on the proper link under the "Topics" menu on the right side of the blog page.    Since we update our blog several times per week,  please check back often  for new entries.  Eric S. Solotoff

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What happens after a divorce when two parents cannot seem to agree on parenting time or nearly anything else related to their child(ren)?  Individuals often going through a divorce will ask, "How much longer do I have to deal with him/her?"  When children are involved, the real answer is forever!

While a marriage may not always last forever, the job of being a parent does.  One of the hardest things that a person can face during a divorce (and after) is negotiating and navigating the pitfalls that can often occur when parents are forced to see their former spouse's when dropping off or picking up the child(ren) of the marriage.  Too often parents cannot put their differences aside and act in the “best interest of the child(ren)”,  which includes communicating with the child’s other parent.  In order to facilitate those difficult relationships judges will often appoint a parenting coordinator (a neutral third party, often a therapist) to help facilitate a schedule that can work for both parents, while acting in the “best interest of the child.”

In the recent unpublished appellate decision Menzel v. Davis, the parties exemplify the bad conduct that can occur when parents  cannot agree on a post-divorce parenting schedule.  Menzel traces four years of discord and court proceedings between the parents of a seven year old child (yes – the parties have a minimum of another 11 years to deal with one another).  The nexus of the problem is that the parents cannot agree on a schedule and each time they see one another an incident occurs.  In order to minimize the harm to the child, the court appointed parenting coordinator reduced the amount of contact and transfers by changing the parenting schedule.  Dad was unhappy with the new schedule proposed by the parenting coordinator.  In any event, the trial judge subsequently incorporated the parenting coordinator's recommendations.  Dad then appealed the judge’s decision, alleging that the judge delegated its authority to the parenting coordinator and failed to conduct a “plenary hearing” on the matter.   The Appellate Court denied dad's application, holding that the trial court properly applied the "best interests of the child" standard considering the parties' history of conflict and inability to agree.

This case is an example of how parties in a divorce should conduct themselves.  It is sound advice to clients that it is imperative to act in the best interest of the child(ren) at all times, especially when interaction with your “ex” cannot be avoided.   A court is always going to look at how the parties interact with one another when it comes to the child(ren) and clients should always take the high road, no matter how difficult.  If parties cannot make parenting decisions, including scheduling amongst themselves, the judge has discretion to make these decisions for them or appoint a parent coordinator to make recommendations.  Thus, when clients take the high road they are not only helping their child deal with divorce better but they are also helping themselves.

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What happens when a parent leaves the state and relocates to another state?  Which state has decision making power over the issue of custody?

The recently issued unpublished Appellate Division decision  of Hinton-Lynch v. Horton dealt with the issue of whether New Jersey courts had decision making power regarding custody of a child who's home state (state of habitual residence) had been determined to be Georgia.

The child in the above case was born in NJ, but moved to Georgia when she was five months old.  The courts of Georgia issued Orders declaring mother the custodial parent and addressing father's visitation.  Several years later, mother returned to NJ and filed a motion here regarding father's visitation.  Ultimately that motion was dismissed because of mother's failure to appear.  Thereafter, father filed a motion in the NJ courts seeking to transfer custody to him.  The court scheduled a hearing and mother failed to appear.  The NJ court then granted father's application and transferred custody to him.  Mother appealed the trial court's decision, claiming among other things, that NJ courts did not have the power to make any modifications to custody as Georgia courts retained this power.

Issues of interstate custody are governed by the UCCJEA ("Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act"), as codified in N.J.S.A. 2A: 34-53 to 95, which became effective December 13, 2004.  Prior thereto, this issue was governed by the UCCJA ("Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction Act") (N.J.S.A. 2A: 34-28 to 42).

The UCCJEA makes it clear that in order for a Court of this state to have decision making power regarding custody of a child, a court of another state cannot have decision making power over that child.  Therefore, if another state has entered an Order regarding custody and a Complaint for Custody has not been filed in NJ and the other state has not relinquished its authority over that child, NJ courts are barred from altering the decision of another court.  Note, however, that this does not prevent a NJ court from enforcing that Order once same is registered in NJ.

In the case cited above, it came down to an issue of timing.  The Georgia court relinquished its decision making power over this child after the NJ court had awarded father the transfer of custody.  Careful interpretation of the UCCJEA indicates that "any relinquishment of jurisdiction by the state with exclusive jurisdiction must occur before the other state assumes jurisdiction."  Hinton-Lynch v. Horton at page 8. 

EDITORS NOTE:  While this case was not reported, thus not precedential, it provides a good reminder of the concept of continuing exclusive jurisdiction that really is one of the bedrock principles in the UCCJEA which has been enacted in one form or another in almost every if not every state.  Under the prior law, what usually occurred was that once a child's home state had changed for a period of more than 6 months, it was very easy to change jurisdiction to the new state.                     Eric S. Solotoff

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A very common question asked by divorced parents is whether the custodial parent has the right to move with the child either to another state (interstate) or to another location within New Jersey (intrastate).   In light of these questions, a review of the applicable legal standards for interstate and intrastate moves should provide some guidance.

INTERSTATE MOVE

N.J.S.A. 9:2-2 is designed to protect the parenting relationship between a child and a noncustodial parent when the custodial parent seeks to move to another state. In light of 9:2-2, the New Jersey Supreme Court in its seminal decision of Baures v. Lewis, 167 N.J. 91 (2001) developed a set of 12 factors to consider when reviewing a custodial parent’s removal application (which have also been applied to an international move).   These factors are:

1.        The reasons given for the move;

2.       The reasons given for the opposition;

3.       The past history of dealings between the parties insofar as it bears on the reasons advanced by both parties for supporting and opposing the move;

4.       Whether the child will receive educational, health and leisure opportunities at least equal to what is available here;

5.       Any special needs or talents of the child that require accommodation and whether such accommodation or its equivalent is available in the new location;

6.       Whether a visitation and communication schedule can be developed that will allow the noncustodial parent to maintain a full and continuous relationship with the child;

7.       The likelihood that the custodial parent will continue to foster the child’s relationship with the noncustodial parent if the move is allowed;

8.       The effect of the move on extended family relationships here and in the new location;

9.       If the child is of age, his or her preference;

10.   Whether the child is entering his or her senior year in high school at which point he or she should generally not be moved until graduation without his or her consent;

11.   Whether the noncustodial parent has the ability to relocate; and

12.   Any other factor bearing on the child’s interest.

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A lot of times clients come in saying that they want full or sole custody of the children.  This inevitably leads to a discussion regarding the distinctions between legal and residential custody.

Legal custody is essentially involves decisions regarding children's health, education, religion and general welfare.  With sole legal custody, one parent can make all of the decisions regarding these matters, though they have to consult the other parent in most cases.  With joint legal custody, the parents must consult and attempt to agree. 

Residential custody is where the child lives.  Some catch phrases often used are Parent of Primary Residence (or PPR) and Parent of Alternate Residence (or PAR).  Surprisingly enough, the official definitions for these terms come from the Child Support Guidelines.  Simply put, the PPR is the parent with whom the children reside more than 50% of the time. 

Now, with regard to the question as to whether it is worth fighting about the issue of sole vs. joint legal custody.  In practice, I have found that even in all but the worst of situations, must custody experts recommend and most judges order joint legal custody.  This is even though there is case law that says that joint legal custody may not be appropriate if the parties evidence no ability to communicate.  Of course, if it is the custodial parent that wont cooperate, it seems unfair to reward that parent with sole custody. 

In addition, there is a presumption in the case law that the custodial parent gets the final say in the event of a deadlock between the parents, even when there is joint legal custody.  This has come up time and again in reported decisions, including in cases regarding religious upbringing and of all things, a nose job. 

So, if the experts and courts are usually going to recommend joint legal custody, a litigant must investigate whether it is really worth it to fight for sole custody  Similarly, if the PPR has the legal presumption anyway, one must really consider whether it is worth the fight. 

This is not to say that it is not worth fighting about custody.  The real fight in most cases, if there is a bona fide dispute,  is and should be who is the PPR and how much parenting time the other parent enjoys. 

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The Appellate Division recently issued a reminder in Ort v. Ort, A-3535-06T1 (App. Div. June 17, 2008) that, unlike a parenting time coordinator, a custody and visitation mediator may only “assist the parties in resolving disputes as to major decisions regarding the children,” and “may not make any recommendation to the court respecting custody or visitation.” 

At issue was a father’s post-judgment motion for a change in the method of delivery of letters, cards and gifts to his eight unemancipated children. During the initial divorce litigation in 2003, the Court had appointed a custody and visitation mediator. After the school attended by one of the children indicated in 2006 that it would longer accept items sent by the father to the child at the child’s school, the father consulted with the previously appointed mediator who, without discussing the matter with either the former wife or children, recommended a neutral site for distribution of the items for all of the unemancipated children. The father filed a motion requesting same, which was denied by the Court. The father than submitted a more detailed letter from the mediator explaining why he recommended the use of a neutral site. After the Trial Court reaffirmed the motion denial on reconsideration, the father filed an appeal based, in part, on the judge’s alleged failure to consider the mediator’s letter.

Affirming the Trial Court’s ruling, the Appellate Division added as a potent afterthought that the Trial Court mistakenly referred to the mediator in rendering its decision as a “parenting coordinator.” The Appellate Division then cogently distinguished a coordinator from a mediator, indicating that the mediator, unlike the coordinator, may not make custody or visitation recommendations to the court. It also made clear that, even if the mediator there was actually a coordinator, that he had not engaged in best practices by making recommendations without having previously consulting with both parents and the attorney for the children.

Ort serves as a refresher on the core principle that a custody and parenting time mediator must try to resolve outstanding issues between the parties by maintaining neutral throughout the course of the mediation process. This is accomplished by ensuring complete confidentiality and instilling in the process a sense of what the Appellate Division has previously referred to as “trust and confidence.” For a mediator to make recommendations as that seen in Ort not only poses an “inherent conflict” by going beyond the bounds of the mediator’s essential role, but it also demonstrates a tainted bias in favor of one party over the other – in other words, exactly what a mediator should not be doing.    

As the Appellate Division said in Isaacson v. Isaacson, 348 N.J. Super. 560, 578 (App. Div. 2002), mediators are “critical to the administration of justice in the Family Part.” The same can obviously be said of parenting coordinators upon whose recommendations judges greatly rely. It is therefore vital that these roles remain separate so that each may perform its own role unclouded by the other’s obligations towards facilitating an effective resolution for the parties involved.

To read the Ort case, click here.

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Judy McIntire Springer, a partner in our Philadelphia office, wrote a terrific post on litigating Hague Convention claims for the Legal Intelligencer Blog.   The link below is to the second part of her article.

The Hague Convention is an international treaty that many countries have ratified, including the United States. The treaty prohibits parents from wrongfully removing and/or retaining a child from his or her home country.

To read the full text of the post, click here.

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In a recently published Superior Court opinion, a Monmouth county judge found that unauthorized discovery in a post judgment matter is inadmissible and against the rules of discovery in a matrimonial matter.  In the matter of Welch v. Welch, the defendant filed a post judgment application for a change of custody of the parties' minor child.  His application was based upon his concerns for the plaintiff/mother's mental well being and hence ability to properly care for the parties' child.  Two days prior to filing his motion seeking a change in custody, defendant's attorney issued a Subpoena Duces Tecum and Ad Testificandum upon the Marlboro Township police department.  This subpoena requested copies of all documentation pertaining to incidents related to the plaintiff as well as requesting the appearance of an officer on the return date of the motion to possibly give testimony.  Plaintiff's counsel filed a motion to prohibit the release of these documents, alleging the request was made in violation of the Court Rules and also sought sanctions against defendant and his attorney as well as counsel fees.

Ultimately, the court refused to consider any of the documents turned over by the police department asserting that the documents had been obtained in violation of court rules.  The court also assessed counsel fees against the defendant but did not issue sanctions.

The court based its reasoning, in part, upon the notion that discovery is limited in post judgment applications.  The court found that without the scheduling of a plenary hearing or any further proceedings, defendant's subpoena was unnecessary, harassing and impermissible.  The court went on to state that "post-judgment matrimonial motions are summary in nature and are resolved with little or no discovery." 

What is troubling about this trial court decision is the fact that in contested post judgment custody matters, how can a court ignore the admissibility of relevant evidence? Does that not contradict the court's main objective, which is the child's best interest? What about the court's parens patriae duty to protect children?

The decision appears to be inconsistent with the  the Appellate Division's 2002 holding in Tartaglia v. Paine Webber, Inc., which held that illegally obtained evidence in a civil matter  was admissible (though a party could be sanctioned for illegally obtaining it).  On a final note, police records are public records.  Is the court's finding in Welch punitive, insomuch as defendant was assessed counsel fees for issuing a subpoena for the release of what is public record.

It should be noted that the finding in Welch pertains only to post judgment matters.  Discovery in pre-trial matrimonial cases remains broad (See R. 5:5-1).  It would not be surprising if this case is appealed. 

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This week in an opinion published by the Appellate Division, the Court  held that parties in a matrimonial action cannot agree to binding, non-appealable arbitration of child custody and parenting time issues.  Any such agreement would violate the Court's parens patriae obligation to protect the best interests of the children.

In the matter of Fawzy v. Fawzy,  the parties were scheduled for a trial date in early 2007.  When they appeared in Court on this date, after several hours of discussion, they agreed to submit all issues in contest to an arbitrator for binding, final, non-appealable arbitration pursuant to this state's statute governing arbitration (N.J.S.A. 2A:23B1 to 32).  They went before the judge that same day and placed this agreement on the record.  The judge advised them that the arbitrator's decision would be final and could not be changed.  The parties agreed and went forward.

The parties selected an arbitrator and began the process.  After several days into the proceeding, Mr. Fawzy sensed things were not going well for him and filed an emergent application with the Court to restrain the arbitrator from making a custody and parenting time award.  His argument was that these issues could not be arbitrated as a matter of law.  The trial judge denied his application.

Shortly thereafter the arbitrator issued a custody and parenting time award in Ms. Fawzy's favor.  Mr. Fawzy retained new counsel and filed a second emergent application seeking to vacate the arbitration award, disqualify the arbitrator, restrain the arbitrator from any further participation, require a de novo review of the reward and stay the award pending appeal.  The trial judge once again denied his application and entered an amended judgment of divorce confirming the arbitrator's award.  Mr. Fawzy then filed his appeal.

On appeal, Mr. Fawzy argued that as a matter of law, parties cannot bargain away the Court's obligation to review the best interests of the children by agreeing to binding arbitration of custody issues.  The Court noted that it was troubled by the fact that Mr. Fawzy did not make any claims that the award would cause harm to his children or in any way endanger their health, safety or welfare.  Despite that concern, the Court agrees that parties to a matrimonial matter cannot enter into an agreement to submit custody issues to final, binding, non-appealable arbitration.

While our courts have endorsed arbitration as a favored remedy and have encouraged the use of various alternative dispute resolution devices, the question of whether child custody could be submitted to final, binding arbitration has not before been addressed by the Court.  The Court has favored the use of final, binding arbitration for alimony disputes as seen in the 1984 opinion of Faherty v. Faherty, however they did not address the issue of custody directly at that time.

In conclusion, the opinion notes that while the development of a more workable custody arbitration process may be more beneficial to both the parties and the children involved in a matrimonial action, the Court ultimately must defer to their traditional parens patriae role.  That role requires the trial court to determine the best interests of the children regardless of any agreement for arbitration as to custody and parenting time.

While binding arbitration is a viable and useful alternative to litigation for the purpose of resolving financial issues related to equitable distribution and alimony, issues concerning and relating to the best interests of a child cannot be submitted to binding, final arbitration.  When considering arbitration as an alternative to traditional litigation, make mental note of its restrictions.

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Judy McIntire Springer, a partner in our Philadelphia office, wrote a terrific post on litigating Hague Convention claims for the Legal Intelligencer Blog.

The Hague Convention is an international treaty that many countries have ratified, including the United States. The treaty prohibits parents from wrongfully removing and/or retaining a child from his or her home country.

To read the full text of the post, click here.

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Custody evaluations are very important in determining child custody and access during contested divorce proceedings. Divorce courts give considerable weight to the recommendations of the evaluator. In addition, the participates are usually extremely nervous about the process.

As such, before an evaluation, I try to meet with my clients to let them know what to expect.  I also try to give them some basic guidelines as to how to act. 

Below are some guidelines that will assist a person to prepare for your custody evaluation with the expectation of ending your custody battle.

• Arrive on time at your custody evaluation interview.
• Dress neatly and conservatively.
• Be honest. The custody evaluator will likely check out your statements with collaterals and/or other sources.
• If the custody evaluator chooses to use psychological testing, ABSOLUTELY answer honestly. The tests are designed to detect defensiveness and lies and unless you are an expert in psychometric testing, you are unlikely to fool them.
• Be sincere. The custody evaluator can usually detect over embellishment and insincerity.
• It's all right to be nervous; most people are.
• It's all right to cry and/or show emotion; many people do.
• Answer questions directly and to the point.
• Make sure you pay attention to what the evaluator is asking.
• Take your time when answering a question. If you do not understand what is being asked, feel free to ask the evaluator to explain what he/she means.
• If the custody evaluator asks that you provide additional documentation, do so as promptly as possible or communicate any concerns about getting it.
• If you provide the custody evaluator with names of collateral contacts, it is a good idea to inform them in advance that they may be contacted so that they can prepare to speak on your behalf.
• If the custody evaluator is observing you with your child(ren), be attentive to their needs and focus on their interests and not yours.
• Present yourself as being reasonable and placing the concerns of your child(ren) above all.
• Relax and let the best aspects of your personality come out (patience, humor, concern for the child(ren)’s well being, etc.)

The following is a list of things to avoid doing during a custody evaluation
• DO NOT speak badly of your spouse/partner unless the custody evaluator asks you to comment on what you perceive to be the problems between you.
• DO not make threatening comments about your spouse/partner or anyone else to the evaluator.
• DO NOT harass the custody evaluator with phone calls.
• DO NOT drop by the evaluator's office without an appointment.
• DO NOT call the custody evaluator to see if the report is completed.
• DO NOT prep your child(ren) to say negative things about their other parent. The custody evaluator has ways of telling if this has happened.
• Custody evaluators recognize the stress people are under during this process and take this into account when assessing family members.
• If you are feeling stressed and anxious, it is all right to acknowledge it and allow the custody evaluator to help allay some of your concerns.

The following is a list of things that the evaluator is looking for:
• Empathy (the ability to understand what the children are feeling and the willingness to react appropriately)
• Setting appropriate boundaries
• Proper environment and proper care providers
• A loving relationship between you and your child(ren)
• Behavior supportive of the relationship between the child(ren) and the other parent
• Behavior which demonstrates that you are striving to keep the child(ren) insulated from the conflict
• Lack of hostility toward your spouse. (Speak of past problems in a matter-of-fact way, indicating that you these things behind you)

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One of my pet peeves is litigants and lawyers that use custody and parenting time issues as a bargaining chip to get better a better financial settlement.  I have several matters ongoing now where that is occurring.

In a recent case, both in negotiations between the parties directly, and in negotiations with opposing counsel, we were told that the proposed resolution of a hotly contested parenting time issue for far less than had been demanded was fine but only as part of a global settlement including the finances.  Put another way, they were only going to resolve visitation if my client made financial concessions.  The bad faith of the tactic was evident.

In fact,  in New Jersey, there is really little interplay between the parenting time and the finances other than some child support adjustments made for the number of overnight visits.  This does not even really come into play in high income cases that exceed the Child Support Guidelines.  That said, since parenting time and custody issues are based upon the best interests of the children, most would agree that you should not negotiate these issues based upon money.  However, it comes up all to frequently, often to the detriment of the children and at a great financial and emotional cost to the parties. 

The system in New Jersey is set up to try to smoke out and resolve these bogus parenting and custody issues early in the case.  At the outset of a case, the parties are required to attend a Parent Education program given by each county.  After that, the parties are required to go to mandatory custody and parenting time mediation, usually with Court staff, unless there is a domestic violence restraining order in effect.  Only then, do you get into custody and parenting evaluations with experts, etc.  Also, this is all completed at the outset of the process, long before discovery is over, and often before it is even started in earnest.

A familiar scenario of the bad faith custody dispute that I have seen a fair amount as of late is as follows:  one parent is the traditional stay at home parent - the other is the Type A executive type that leaves the home at 6 a.m. and doesn't return home until 7 p.m.  Sometimes, that person travels substantially for business as well.  The stay at home parent has been responsible for all medical and dental visits, haircuts, play dates, teacher conferences, etc. The divorce starts and the  parent that works out of the home demands either custody or a 50-50 parenting arrangement. 

In these cases, absent mental health issues or other extraneous circumstances, the demand is one that is typically made either because there are control issues or as a bargaining chip.  That is not to say that there are not times where this parent should not get custody, because there are and I have gotten custody for these types of parents. 

That said, when these issues are made for bargaining, if the matter does not settle in mediation, the next step is custody evaluations by a forensic psychologist. If the parties cannot agree on a joint expert or the Court does not appoint one expert, there can be two experts.  The children are now made part of the process and have to meet with the expert several times.  Their teachers may be contacted.  Their doctors and therapists may be contacted.  The parties' therapists may be contacted.  Other collateral sources may be contacted (neighbors, coaches, family members, etc.)  The price to pay on the family, aside from the legal and expert fees, is high - especially when the issue is for bargaining only.

Don't get me wrong.  I understand that there are good faith custody and parenting disputes that require this process.  While the toll is still the same, that may be unavoidable.  However, if the issue is not a "real" one, I would hope that people would not use it improperly as a bargaining chip.  The collateral damage may be great.

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In an unreported decision of the Appellate Division on April 17, 2008 in the case of Swicinski v. Maul, the Court held that passage of time alone was a sufficient change of circumstance to warrant a modification of the father's parenting time.

In this case, the parties were never married. In 2003, when the child was six weeks old, the Court entered an Order granting the parties joint legal custody, designating the mother as primary residential custodian and granting the father parenting time every Sunday between 10:00 a.m. and 6:00 p.m., and between 6:00 p.m. every Monday through 6:00 p.m. the next day. Because that schedule was cumbersome and involved four round-trips in each three-day period, the parties voluntarily modified that schedule so that father's parenting time would begin on Sunday morning and conclude on Monday at 6:00 p.m.

In 2007, the father sought additional parenting time and it was opposed by the mother.  The trial court granted the additional time and the Appellate Division affirmed. 

The trial court noted and the Appellate Division agreed that  parenting time for an infant should be structured differently than parenting time with a 4-year old and that that alone was a change of circumstancee.  The father also had other changes in his life - a new wife, a new home and greater stability.

The trial court also noted that custody and parenting time issues are always subject to review.  That said, in practce, typically, a change of circumstances is necesseary to obtain a modification. 

What should be taken from this case is that the needs of a child differ depending on their ages.  Parenting time that may be appropriate for an infant or toddler, is not necessarily appropriate for an older child.  As such, just because parenting time is settled does not mean that it can never change with time.  This case confirms a common sense argument many have been making for some time.

For a link to the case, click here.

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While statistically, 99% of all cases settle, some cases take longer than others to get there.  Moreover, some cases require the assistance of a third party to help one or both party or attorney get past whatever it is that is holding the case up from resolving itself.

I, for one, have been skeptical of mediation in a number settings.  The first is at the onset of a complex matter where one party is pushing for mediation and there hasn't even been the most basic exchange of information at that time, much less formal discovery.  I have even seen cases where the party with the documents will not provide them in advance of mediation and will only bring them to mediation and take them with him at the end.  The second setting that gives me cause for pause is when parties attend mediation without counsel and there is a great imbalance of power between the parties (consistent with the imbalance of power that permeated the parties' relationship).  In these instances, unless there is a strong mediator that will protect the disadvantaged spouse, I have often seen such mediations result in a "settlement", but one where the disadvantaged spouse got a "deal" that was neither fair nor reasonable, if not unconscionable.  The problem in these cases is that often, once there is an "agreement", the person that got the great deal refuses to concede anything.  Thus, a method meant to avoid litigation can often create litigation. 

However, in this day and age in New Jersey, the court mandates mediation at two junctures of the case (unless there is a domestic violence restraining order.)  The first is early on in the case when the parties go to custody and parenting time mediation conducted by court staff.  This is meant to ferret out the true custody dispute.  That said, I make sure that my client is prepared before they attend this mediation because it often results in a resolution of the issues and I want that resolution to be one that my client actually has considered in advance and is comfortable with.  As such, we often prepare a parenting plan, in advance, which deals with the regular parenting time, legal custody, holidays, vacations, etc.

The second mandatory mediation is economic mediation which takes place after an Early Settlement Panel.  Attorneys usually are required to attend with clients.  This is often the time when a case that is more than your run of the mill case will settle.  By this time, it is expected that most, if not all of your discovery will be done. Unlike the Early Settlement Panel where the panelists have a short time to consider the issues, the mediator can spend more time to flesh them out and more importantly, facilitate a dialogue and negotiation. 

In some cases, the impartial voice of the mediator helps one or both parties get past an issue that they are stuck on.  Put another way, when either the client's attorney has told the client time an again of a probable result, or if the attorney is presenting the strongest position regarding an issue as an advocate, the mediator, who has no axe to grind, may be just what is necessary to put the issue to bed.  In other cases that I have seen, sometimes one of the attorneys doesn't handle exclusively family law matters and/or is otherwise less confident.  In these cases, the mediator essentially can let the attorney know that the deal is fair.

I have been involved in cases where the parties were more than $20 million apart and seemed headed for a trial that would have lasted several months.  However, after 8 to 10 days of hard work at mediation, the case settled, saving both parties tens if not hundreds of thousands in legal and expert fees that would have been incurred at a trial.

The bottom line is that most people truly want to settle their cases in a fair way.  We always hear anecdotally that cases that settle come back to court far less often than cases that are tried.  We also hear that people that settle their cases are far more satisfied with the result than if they tried the case.  In a trial, the litigant gives up control of their life to a judge that doesn't know them and will only hear bits and pieces of their story - along with the hundreds of other cases they have.  Mediation with a skilled mediator, where the playing field is level, the parties both have all necessary information and the imbalance of power is kept in check, is excellent way to keep control of your life and resolve your matter in a fair and beneficial way.

Check back for future entries regarding arbitration and trial practice.  While most cases do settle, if litigation is required, we are skilled at handling matters that require a trial, as well.

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