Can A Domestic Violence Restraining Order Be Dismissed?

At the time of a break-up of a relationship, clearly emotions are high, it is contentious and people often do or say things that they normally would not. Unfortunately, during this time period where many feel like they are on an emotional roller coaster, the tension escalates to the point where one party has filed a Complaint for Domestic Violence as a result of the actions and/or comments of the other party and the Court enters a Final Restraining Order. Once the emotional roller coaster ride stops, does the defendant have the ability to ask that the Restraining Order be dismissed? The answer is yes but the more important inquiry is whether or not such request will be granted. 

In New Jersey, either party to a Domestic Violence Restraining Order may request dismissal of the Restraining Order by way of Motion filed with the Court. The New Jersey Prevention of Domestic Violence Act states that “Upon good cause shown, any final restraining order may be dissolved or modified upon application to the Family Part…” N.J.S.A. 2C:25-29d. In other words, simply asking for a dismissal-- even if you are the plaintiff or the victim-- does not automatically warrant a dismissal of the Restraining Order. 

 

If the Defendant files the Motion to dismiss the Restraining Order, there are eleven factors for the Court to consider when determining whether or not “good cause” exists to dismiss a Restraining Order: the victim’s consent; current relationship of the parties; number of contempt convictions; use of drugs or alcohol; whether defendant is violent with others; whether the aggressor attends counseling; age and health of the aggressor; whether the victim is acting in “good faith” when opposing the dismissal; whether there are any other domestic violence restraining orders between the parties in other jurisdictions; and any other relevant considerations relevant to dismissal of the Restraining Order.

 

If the Plaintiff is the party making a request for dismissal, before any dismissal is entered, the Court must discern whether the plaintiff is seeking the dismissal voluntarily, without coercion or duress; if the plaintiff understands the cycle of violence that occurs in the domestic violence setting; and if the plaintiff understands the loss of protection if the Restraining Order is dismissed.

Notably, regardless of whether or not Plaintiff consents to, wants to have and does have communication with a defendant to a Restraining order, unless the Court has dismissed the Restraining Order, it remains in full force and effect.

Accordingly, depending upon the situation at the time of the entry of the Restraining Order and the underlying facts resulting in entry of the Restraining Order and the current situation, a Defendant may consider seeking dismissal of a Restraining Order. This is especially the case if the Restraining Order was entered shortly after the parties break-up, a reasonable amount of time has lapsed, and there have been no contempt proceedings. By way of example, I represented a client who had a Final Restraining Order entered against her during her divorce proceedings. The divorce proceedings were very emotionally charged especially because the husband had an affair with one of her close friends. Needless to say, my client was very upset and sometimes very confrontational during this phase. Notably, prior to and after the divorce proceedings, she was actually a very private, quiet and rational person. Once the divorce was completed and after three years since entry of the Domestic Violence Restraining Order and the emotions had long since died down, she found it increasingly difficult to have the Restraining Order in place because she and her ex-husband were very involved in their children’s school and extracurricular activities. Notably, there had never been any contempt proceedings nor any other problems between the parties since entry of the Final Judgment of Divorce and the Final Restraining Order. We therefore filed a Motion to dismiss the Restraining Order which, based upon the facts, was granted. (Readers should not misconstrue the comments in this blog as encouraging dismissal of Restraining Orders or requesting dismissals of Restraining Orders in all circumstances. There are many cases in which it would be absolutely inappropriate to dismiss a Restraining Order especially those that involve violent behavior.)

 

The Appellate Division recently rendered an unpublished decision indicating that upon filing a Motion to dismiss a Restraining Order if the Court finds that there are factual disputes between the parties, the Court must complete a mini-trial (“plenary hearing”) before making any determination. O.N. v. R.N. (App. Div. decided September 23, 2009). Thus, before filing such application, the defendant must make a thorough analysis with his or her attorney of the eleven factors cited above and weigh the merits of their particular dismissal request. In some cases, defendants are found to use the Motion to Dismiss as a means to harass the victim. Therefore, it is important to first complete an analysis of the factual circumstances to be relied upon in seeking a dismissal and the likelihood that the dismissal will be granted.
 

A "PURPOSE TO HARASS" UNDER THE PREVENTION OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ACT

There are numerous criminal acts addressed within the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act, which,if proven,can form the basis for the entry of a domestic violence restraining order.The crime of harassment  is one.  It is defined by New Jersey law as being committed when a person, "with purpose to harass another," "[e]ngages in any other course of alarming conduct . . . with purpose to alarm or seriously annoy such other person."  The person must have a "conscious objective" to harass the victim.

Actually proving a purpose to harass, however, can be harder than it seems.  For instance, I recently tried a Final Restraining Order hearing where the husband/alleged abuser admitted to calling his wife dozens of times after she had fled the home and he had obtained a bogus temporary restraining order against her.  His defense?  I was just trying to "get her back because I love her."  Despite the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act requiring a broad interpretation of its terms to protect victims, the trial court dissolved the wife's TRO against the husband, finding that the husband lacked a purpose to harass despite admitting to everything that she alleged.  This despite an also undisputed prior history of domestic violence.

It was this oftentimes difficult "purpose" requirement that was recently addressed by the Appellate Division in R.P. v. Somerset, where the Appellate Division reversed a trial court's implementation of a Final Restraining Order because of a misinterpretation of the law.  The trial court held that a specific intent to harass was not necessary in proving that harassment occurred.  The Appellate Division disagreed and reversed, finding that the "purpose" is an integral part of proving a harassment claim.  In its conclusion, it also found that there was no evidence of a purpose in the case at issue, especially in light of a lack of prior domestic violence by the alleged abuser.  This despite the fact that the primary incident involved the alleged abuser/ex-girlfriend showing up at the ex-boyfriend's home when he arrived with his new girlfriend, pulling the new girlfriend from the car and assaulting her. 

Purpose is critical.  So is filling out a domestic violence complaint with as much relevant detail as possible.  Any victim will surely be grilled on the contents of the complaint, especially if there is anything missing or contradictory from testimony given.  Including details as to current and past incidents is of great importance.  Also, considering how difficult it may be to prove harassment, it is also recommended to check off a claim for harassment on the complaint form, as well as any other claim that may be proven by your facts, such as stalking, assault, terroristic threats, etc.