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WHEN LESS THAN THE FULL AMOUNT IS PAID, WHO GETS TO DECIDE WHETHER IT WAS ALIMONY OR CHILD SUPPORT?

Posted in Alimony, Child Support, Practice Issues

What happens when a support obligor shorts his alimony and child support payments and then tax time comes around?  Of course, since alimony is deductible to the payor, he/she is likely to want to claim that most or all of the payments were alimony in order to get the deduction.  Inevitably, if the recipient doesn’t… Continue Reading

YOU CHEATED, YOU LIED, THE COURT SAYS “WHATEVER”

Posted in Alimony, Divorce, Equitable Distribution, Practice Issues

When meeting with a new client whose spouse has cheated on them, the anger, sadness, sense of loss and betrayal is often palpable.  They are quite often resolute that they can never get over their spouse’s indiscretion (though referring to it as an indiscretion seems to minimize it from the victim’s perspective), and proceeding to… Continue Reading

IS IT A PROBLEM THAT TWO DIFFERENT JUDGES CAN LOOK AT THE SAME FACTS AND ONE WOULD SAY PERMANENT ALIMONY AND ONE WOULD NOT?

Posted in Alimony, Practice Issues

Last week, I blogged about the fact that the Supreme Court was going to be hearing argument on the Gnall v. Gnall case on November 12, 2014.  I watched part of the argument streaming on the judiciary website and the rest of it later when it was posted to the site.  For those of you… Continue Reading

PARENTS REQUIRED TO PAY $16,000 TOWARD ESTRANGED DAUGHTER’S COLLEGE EDUCATION

Posted in Child Support, Custody, Divorce, Modification, Practice Issues

“Caitlyn’s parents Maura and Michael were young loves. Their marriage only lasted two and a half years but the two say they amicably parented to give their daughter the best life they could.” ABC News Anchor, Wendy Saltzman, reported on last night’s news. Caitlyn’s parents became estranged from their daughter when “Instead of following our… Continue Reading

STALKING THE SOUL: CO-PARENTING WITH AN ABUSIVE NARCISSIST (PART II)

Posted in Custody, Divorce, Modification, Practice Issues, Visitation/Parenting Time

“Whereas victims rarely know how to use the law in their favor, the aggressor instinctively deploys the necessary maneuvers.  Abusive behavior can be used to find fault in a divorce action. But how can one keep track of guilt by innuendo?” –Marie-France Hirigoyen, Stalking the Soul; Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity. You know… Continue Reading

DIVORCE HOTEL – PARADISE OR PARADISE LOST?

Posted in Divorce, Mediation/Arbitration, Practice Issues

Some concepts never cease to amaze, especially when reality television is involved.  Promising an idyllic setting for a “quickie” divorce, the Gideon Putnam Resort in Saratoga Springs, New York, is welcoming couples who want to end their marriage while surrounded by golf courses, swimming pools, hiking trails and spa treatments.  While one can appreciate the… Continue Reading

MARRIAGE AT RISK IN TODAY’S ENVIRONMENT OF INCOME INEQUALITY?

Posted in Divorce, Practice Issues

In recent years, we have been repeatedly cautioned by government leaders and renowned economists that the wealth gap and income inequality in America is only getting worse.  As part of the widening gap, some experts describe a slow disappearance of the middle class, with individuals/families who formerly fulfilled that category now moving either up or… Continue Reading

LITIGANT BARRED FROM APPEARING IN DIVORCE MATTER THROUGH DESIGNATED POWER OF ATTORNEY

Posted in Divorce, Practice Issues

A power of attorney can be a necessary, if not critical mechanism by which to accomplish certain activities in one’s life, where the person instilled with such power acts as an agent on behalf of the appointing individual.  For instance, elderly or disabled individuals often designate someone, often a relative, with a power of attorney to… Continue Reading

STERN REVISITED – USING THE SHAREHOLDER AGREEMENT TO DETERMINE VALUE

Posted in Equitable Distribution, Practice Issues

Inevitably, when there is a business to value as part of a divorce, the valuation experts will ask for buy/sell and/or shareholders agreements.  I often wonder why because quite often, you really don’t see much discussion about these agreements in the valuation reports.  Moroever, since Brown v. Brown changed the landscape, did away with discounts… Continue Reading

STALKING THE SOUL: CO-PARENTING WITH AN ABUSIVE NARCISSIST (PART I)

Posted in Custody, Practice Issues, Visitation/Parenting Time

“Physical violence can be testified to by outside evidence: eyewitnesses, police and medical reports.  With emotional abuse, there is no proof.  It’s clean violence.  Nobody sees anything.” –Marie-France Hirigoyen, Stalking the Soul; Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity. (Amazon.com) Several months ago, after I published Seven Deadly Sins Of Divorce: Pride; The Narcissistic Divorce,… Continue Reading

YOU MAY BE WEALTHY, BUT IT MAY BE HARD TO PAY THE EQUITABLE DISTRIBUTION

Posted in Equitable Distribution, Practice Issues

You’re wealthy and entitled to a big settlement but does that mean that it will be easy to get your share of equitable distribution?  When all of the assets are valued, you are worth $2,000,000, $10,000,000, $25,000,000, $9 billion.  In many cases. the issue is less about the amount of the award of equitable distribution… Continue Reading

Ability to Pay Hearings: A Refresher in the Limits of Coercive Incarceration

Posted in Alimony, Child Support, Practice Issues

“Why won’t they throw him in jail?  He is $10,000 in arrears in child support!”  This is a sentiment many matrimonial practitioners frequently hear from their clients. Often times clients think that courts automatically throw an obligor spouse in jail for the non-payment of support.  While not uncommon in other states, in truth, the use… Continue Reading

THE LAWYER, THE LIAR

Posted in Practice Issues

I like a good joke as much as the next person.  That said, like many in my profession, I get sensitive about lawyer jokes.  Often, they are just cheap shots that in no way reflect the reality of what most of us do.  I particularly despise this one, “How can you tell when a lawyer is… Continue Reading