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Changing a Child’s Hair Color- Who decides????

Posted in Custody, Divorce, Visitation/Parenting Time

  It was recently reported that movie star Hallie Berry has taken her daughter’s father to court over his actions of straightening and changing their daughter’s hair color, claiming that he exceeded the bounds rights as a joint legal custodian. Believe it or not, this is not an unusual issue come up when two parents of… Continue Reading

PARENTS REQUIRED TO PAY $16,000 TOWARD ESTRANGED DAUGHTER’S COLLEGE EDUCATION

Posted in Child Support, Custody, Divorce, Modification, Practice Issues

“Caitlyn’s parents Maura and Michael were young loves. Their marriage only lasted two and a half years but the two say they amicably parented to give their daughter the best life they could.” ABC News Anchor, Wendy Saltzman, reported on last night’s news. Caitlyn’s parents became estranged from their daughter when “Instead of following our… Continue Reading

STALKING THE SOUL: CO-PARENTING WITH AN ABUSIVE NARCISSIST (PART II)

Posted in Custody, Divorce, Modification, Practice Issues, Visitation/Parenting Time

“Whereas victims rarely know how to use the law in their favor, the aggressor instinctively deploys the necessary maneuvers.  Abusive behavior can be used to find fault in a divorce action. But how can one keep track of guilt by innuendo?” –Marie-France Hirigoyen, Stalking the Soul; Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity. You know… Continue Reading

Pre-School: Is it School, or is it Day Care? And which parent gets to decide?

Posted in Custody, Divorce, Interspousal Agreements, Visitation/Parenting Time

In the days of my childhood, formal education began in Kindergarten when, finally, I got to ride the bus with the big kids.  Not so much any more.  The vast majority of children now go to some type of pre-Kindergarten program during which they have the opportunity to learn the basics of the alphabet, numbers… Continue Reading

WEALTH IN DIVORCE AND ITS IMPACT ON CHILDREN

Posted in Custody, Divorce, Visitation/Parenting Time

An article today on Time’s website discussed the findings of a study comparing the behavioral trends of children of divorce from wealthy and lower income families.   The study, which was conducted by researchers at Georgetown University and the University of Chicago, divided a sample of approximately 4,000 children into three groups by income.  Interestingly,… Continue Reading

DIVORCE HOTEL – PARADISE OR PARADISE LOST?

Posted in Divorce, Mediation/Arbitration, Practice Issues

Some concepts never cease to amaze, especially when reality television is involved.  Promising an idyllic setting for a “quickie” divorce, the Gideon Putnam Resort in Saratoga Springs, New York, is welcoming couples who want to end their marriage while surrounded by golf courses, swimming pools, hiking trails and spa treatments.  While one can appreciate the… Continue Reading

MARRIAGE AT RISK IN TODAY’S ENVIRONMENT OF INCOME INEQUALITY?

Posted in Divorce, Practice Issues

In recent years, we have been repeatedly cautioned by government leaders and renowned economists that the wealth gap and income inequality in America is only getting worse.  As part of the widening gap, some experts describe a slow disappearance of the middle class, with individuals/families who formerly fulfilled that category now moving either up or… Continue Reading

LITIGANT BARRED FROM APPEARING IN DIVORCE MATTER THROUGH DESIGNATED POWER OF ATTORNEY

Posted in Divorce, Practice Issues

A power of attorney can be a necessary, if not critical mechanism by which to accomplish certain activities in one’s life, where the person instilled with such power acts as an agent on behalf of the appointing individual.  For instance, elderly or disabled individuals often designate someone, often a relative, with a power of attorney to… Continue Reading

CHANGING YOUR NAME POST DIVORCE

Posted in Divorce, Modification, Other

In my opinion, most people (typically women) decide whether or not to change their name to a maiden name at the actual time of the divorce proceeding, if not sooner.  The decision is a largely personal one and in my years of practice I’ve heard the gamut of reasons why to or not to change from… Continue Reading

APPELLATE DIVISION UPHOLDS AWARD OF PERMANENT ALIMONY IN 12 YEAR MARRIAGE WHERE WIFE SUFFERED FROM LUPUS

Posted in Alimony, Divorce

While there are few issues more controversial in New Jersey family law than that of permanent alimony, one circumstance in which courts have been relatively consistent in rendering such an award - where the circumstances may have, without such fact, merited a different result - is where the payee spouse suffers from some form of malady.  This was the… Continue Reading

The Matrimonial Millstone: An Exit Strategy from a Detached Defendant

Posted in Alimony, Child Support, Counsel Fee Awards, Divorce, Equitable Distribution, Visitation/Parenting Time

In the early 20th century, Dr. Duncan MacDougall attempted to quantify the mass lost when the soul departed the body upon death. This study has perpetuated the weight idiosyncratically known as “21 Grams.” Although this theory has largely been dismissed by later studies, the better question is: how much weight does your soul bear going… Continue Reading

NEW JERSEY FAMILY LAW PODCAST SERIES PRESENTS: THE IMPACT OF “GREY DIVORCE” ON RETIREMENT PLANNING

Posted in Divorce, Practice Issues

In the second installment of our New Jersey Family Law Podcast Series, we are proud to present - Impact of Grey Divorce on Retirement Planning.  Based on one of our earlier blog posts, Robert Epstein and I highlight the practical implications associated with the recent uptick in divorce among the “Baby Boomer” generation – those over the age of… Continue Reading

HOW MEN AND WOMEN CAN “LEAN IN” TO DIVORCE

Posted in Divorce

In the past year, you have probably heard this term about a thousand times; especially if you’re a woman.  The book that started it all, “Lean In” by Sheryl Sandberg, focused on encouraging women to pursue their ambitions in a male-dominated world. In the book, Sandberg offered practical advice to women in the workplace with… Continue Reading

NEW JERSEY FATHER ORDERED TO PAY $112,000 FOR DAUGHTER’S LAW SCHOOL TUITION

Posted in Child Support, Custody, Divorce, Modification, Practice Issues

Talk about sticker shock.  A New Jersey father was recently ordered to pay more than $112,000 for his daughter to attend Cornell Law School. But is it really shocking?  The parties’ divorce agreement, entered into in 2009, did provide that the parents would split the cost of law school provided that she maintained over a… Continue Reading

TO DEFAULT OR NOT?

Posted in Divorce, Equitable Distribution, Practice Issues, Uncategorized

So you’ve made the decision to get divorced.  It hasn’t been an easy decision to make.  You’ve hired an attorney and filed your Complaint.  You wait for your spouse to respond.  Nothing.  One month later; still nothing.  Another month; more nothing.  In the meantime, you are living together in misery.  Bills aren’t getting paid.  The… Continue Reading