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When It Comes To Divorce, It Only Takes One to Tango

Posted in Divorce

It goes without saying that it takes two people to agree to get married, making vows "til death do us part."  Those vows, spoken with all sincerity, good intention, and probably with a hopeful belief that the words will be literally followed, somehow fall by the wayside when one party decides to divorce. And while it takes two to get married, it only takes one party to get divorced, especially in the era of "no-fault" divorce. 

Many if not most people feel a certain sadness if not devastation over a divorce.  However, it is often a mutual decision, or at least one that both parties ultimately accept.  It is quite another thing when one party simply does not or cannot accept the divorce.  It is quite a somber experience telling a client that there is nothing that they can do if the other spouse does not want to remain married.  While we often suggest that that person suggest marriage counseling to their spouse, it cannot be compelled.

As I have blogged before, some people in this situation may try to delay the process, essentially delaying the inevitable.  This often drives up the cost of the process.  One wonder weather it also prolongs if not worsens their emotional suffering. While I am not suggesting that people give up on their marriage, when the end is inevitable and they can do nothing to stop it, perhaps it is best to try to move the process along in an orderly way so that they can get on with their life and, if necessary, start the healing.

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